Have you had a situation lately, where the way someone responded to you provoked an internal reaction that just seemed stronger than what the interaction warranted?
Or, have you struggled to focus on your work because of an emotional issue that came up in your personal life, that seems to be consuming all of your energy?
We all have this happen at one point or another, sometimes even on a weekly basis!
The more we try to push these things into the background or ignore the way we feel, the more these feelings and the thoughts that come with them seem to dominate our lives. We have to work harder and harder to distract ourselves, and it still doesn’t solve the issue. Sometimes, trying to avoid the issue drives us into negative behavior, or attracts more of the same dynamics we are trying to escape. We need an emotional breakthrough.
How to Break Through an Emotional Block
Here’s the thing about emotions: We experience them in our bodies. And the more we avoid experiencing emotions, the more they chase us. The only way past them is through them.
I know this sounds kind of nebulous at this point, but there is a really clear and simple way to get through the feelings and the mental and emotional blocks they cause.
The key is Emotional Connection.
Here’s how to do it:
- Take a moment. Find a quiet place if you can (especially at first, when you are learning this technique– in the future, you can do it just about anytime or anywhere.)
- Tune in to your body. Do a quick scan and see where your attention is drawn to. Is there a knot in your stomach? A heaviness in your chest, a pull in your throat? Does your neck feel sore? Explore the sensation. Is it sharp, dull, heavy, hot, cold?
- Invite your mind to revisit the issue that brought up the feelings in your body. If possible, let the scenario replay without making any judgements, simply observing your body as you do so. You may experience flashbacks or related scenarios that help you find the root of your emotional block– these are often found in childhood, but can be from any point in time. Don’t worry if you aren’t coming up with much– the most important part is feeling the way the emotion sits in your body.
- Follow the sensation. Sometimes this is all that is needed– stay with the sensation as it moves and takes different shapes in your body, until it eventually dissipates. This is usually followed by a feeling of opening and lightness in your body. Often times, a deep breath signals the release of the emotion from your body.
Here are a couple of tips:
- Do your best not to make any judgements about your emotions, your thoughts, or what should happen to the sensations in your body. Just choose to be present and observe.
- Go slowly. Don’t worry about the whole process, just focus on the little bit that is happening in that moment– and don’t rush it. (Trust me, it really doesn’t take long at all, once you commit to doing it!)
- If there is a scenario that keeps repeating itself in your life, it’s a good idea to recreate it in your mind’s eye, observing closely your body’s response to each part of that scenario. Again, you may get new visions of previous time this has happened, and this will also give you the opportunity to resolve those instances at the same time.
- We spend a lot of our energy avoiding uncomfortable emotions. This just prolongs the agony. It’s natural to get a of hint of something really uncomfortable (feelings of anger, fear, rejection, loneliness, etc.) and then to want to move away from it. Don’t judge yourself for doing this. Acknowledge, then choose to explore the feeling again. You are an observer here, and there is no right or wrong way to feel about your feelings.
I think you will be amazed by how powerful this simple technique is in letting you move past emotional blocks. It’s healing, and will help you really clarify what is going on in your mind, heart and life.I was attracted to this method immediately because of the type of bodywork I do. I believe that our bodies are our feedback system for our life– physical, psychological, spiritual, and emotional. We experience all of life through our bodies, and one of the wisest things we can do is to tune in and listen and feel. Emotions stick around until we are able to really feel them– and when we don’t, they turn into physical issues.
Hopefully, you will find this technique both helpful and transformative. I learned about this technique for overcoming emotional blocks and living more freely (and honestly) through the book, The One Thing Holding You Back. I cannot recommend it highly enough!